Showing posts with label Distress Centre Ottawa. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Distress Centre Ottawa. Show all posts

Monday, June 20, 2016

Summer Depression

Summer Depression

June has arrived. Nice weather, kids excited to be out of school for the summer, everyone is packing up their towels and umbrellas for the beach, and you might not be feeling so great about any of this.
You might feel guilty that while it seems to be the most beautiful time of the year and you “should” be enjoying some fun in the sun, you are instead feeling down and depressed. This can happen for a multitude of reasons and you are not alone!  Here is some information about summer depression and what you can do about it.

Causes of Summer Depression
Disrupted Schedules:  It is quite easy to stick to a daily routine throughout fall, winter and spring. With the daylight hours extended in the summer, kids home from school and summer vacations disrupting work, sleep and eating habits, being thrown off your schedule during the summer can most definitely have a negative impact on your mental health.

Disrupted Budget:  Summer can be expensive! The allure of time spent eating and drinking with friends on a patio on a nice evening in July is strong but the bills can add up. Not to mention summer vacations can be expensive, and if you are planning to send the kids to summer camp or have to pay for childcare, having your budget disrupted can cause extra stress.

Heat: Summers in Ottawa, much like winters in Ottawa, can bring extreme weather that is hard to handle.  If you don’t have air conditioning, sleeping can become difficult in the extreme humidity and cooking over a hot stove can be unbearable. If you do have air conditioning, you might find yourself becoming a bit too cozy in the comfort of your cooled living room and could start isolating or avoiding going out into the heat or missing out on activities you used to enjoy that you are no longer engaging in due to the weather.

Body Image: Hot weather and outdoor summer activities often call for more exposing clothing which might have you feeling self-conscious about your body. With social media a major part of our lives, it’s really easy to see pictures of your friends seemingly having a great time in their bathing suits at the beach while you are left feeling down and out by your body. Feeling bad about your body contributes to your mental health and may prevent you from doing activities you could find or used to find to be really fun.

Solutions
Consistency: Keeping your circadian rhythm in check helps with keeping emotions regulated. Even with extended day light hours, try to keep your sleep schedule consistent throughout the summer. Make use of black out curtains to ward off daylight if needed.

Prepare your wallet: If you know that you will be taking time off work this summer or paying to send the kids to daycare or camp, start preparing by putting a little bit of money away in the early months of the year. This will help lessen your financial strain come summer time and you will be more able to enjoy the summer without worrying about your bank account. Try to pick activities that you know you will enjoy, rather than ones you feel obligated to partake in. You can also make use of less expensive activities like local splash pads to have fun and beat the heat!

Feel good in your skin: Wearing more exposing clothes in the summer can be intimidating but it can also be fun to find new pieces that accentuate the parts of your body that you do like. Summertime clothes are often more colourful and flowing than warmer clothes and for women, a maxi skirt or dress is comfortable, cool and easily hides things you might not want to be seen around the beach!

Get Help: If you feel your summertime blues are worsening or not going away, please contact your doctor for help. The Distress Centre is also available 24/7 and we are more than happy to listen and provide support not only during the summer but all year round!

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Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Chocolate Affair Gala

It's that time of year again, where indulging in everything CHOCOLATE is more than okay with us!

Join us on April 28, 2016 at the Shaw Centre/Centre Shaw for our 9th annual Chocolate Affair Gala!  You do not want to miss out on the most delicious event you'll ever attend.  Tickets are on sale now!  Get in on the Early Bird pricing from now until February 29th and save on your tickets.  

Our event boasts an amazing night of everything chocolate from your first bite of chocolate at the door to a four-course chocolate infused dinner, delicious treats from local chocolatiers, chocolate fondue and scrumptious morsels of chocolate all evening long.  Chocolatiers include Hummingbird Chocolate Maker,CocoHari, JoJo CoCo, Steeped Tea with Shelly, Cococo Chocolaterie Bernard Callebaut and more!  Special guest, Megan Schellenberg as our keynote speaker.

Sponsored in part by the Shaw Centre, our Gala will take place in the gorgeous Trillium Ballroom, overlooking downtown Ottawa and all its beauty.  MAJIC 100's Sarah Freemark will grace our stage with her prescence as our Emcee for the evening.

We can't wait to share a night of pure chocolate indulgence with you again this year!  Get your tickets early, this event WILL sell out!  Eating chocolate for charity?  Amazing.  Buy your tickets here or call 613-238-1089 x 222!
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Monday, November 25, 2013

Happy Holidays?

Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or another special time, there's no avoiding it, it's coming and it's fast approaching with December 1st being this Sunday.

The holiday season is one that is full of a mixture of feelings and emotions, ranging from excited & happy, to stressed and overwhelmed, to depressed and sad.   These emotions vary from person to person, and the level of them depends on each individual.  For instance, myself, I LOVE Christmas, and am a very prepared woman who is almost done her shopping and preparation.  (Go ahead, make a face at your screen, it's okay, I'm used to it!)

While the hustle & bustle of the holidays can be exciting, it's crucial to take excellent care of yourself while you are suddenly doing way more than your normal routine.  Last year, we wrote about how to deal with the depression that can sometimes accompany the holidays, and provided some helpful tips to those who perhaps were looking for a way to cope.


1) Keep yourself organized.  Are you finding the whole idea of getting prepared and doing the shopping and the wrapping and the baking and, and, and, and.....too much?  Start with a trusty old "To-Do" list.  Make separate ones for each task you need to complete - shopping, food prep, decorating, etc.  Tackle one task at a time, and watch how satisfying it is when you cross each item off the list.

2) Take time for YOU.  Indulge in something that makes YOU happy.  Whether it's a specialty coffee at your favorite coffee shop, or a yoga class, a massage, or a guy's night out (or girl's!) taking time to do something nice for yourself will make a big difference in how holiday stress will affect you.

3) Go see the big guy in red!  If it falls into what holiday you celebrate, taking yourself, partner, kids to see Santa at a local mall or a parade can really bring joy and smiles to your face.  Yes, the line up of crying children, and hot parents, can be daunting, so check out the times at your local mall and choose an off peak time of day/night to see Santa.  One, you'll get to relax more, and two, you may just get an extra few minutes to talk to Santa!

4) Do something completely unselfish.  Have you heard of "Elfing"?  It's where you put something together, either handmade or purchased, your choice, and put it all together in a little package, maybe include some hot chocolate mix, and a little note (see below) and leave it on someone's doorknob, office desk, customer service area, wherever you decide to!  Just knowing that you've brightened someone's day will certainly brighten yours!


5) Take pictures!  Have you ever been so busy that you forgot to take your camera or smart phone out and snap some pictures to have for the years to come?  Grab some fun props, or go out in the snow (looks like Ottawa will get their first snowstorm tomorrow!) or have fun lighting the Menorah or decorating the tree, or out for a walk taking in the festive lights.  How about a photo a day challenge?  One photo each day that falls into a category like below.


If the holidays are just not your thing, don't feel badly.  You're entitled to feel the way you do.  However, if you are feeling severely depressed, anxious, stressed and do not know how to cope with these feelings, please know that we are here for you 24/7. 

We have volunteers here even through the holidays.  These volunteers have given us the best holiday gift of all - their time - to ensure that someone is always here to answer the line when you call.

So if you wake up on Christmas Day, and you are needing someone to talk to, please know that we are here for you - as the same goes for every other time period over the holidays.

613-238-3311

As we head into December, we would like to wish each and every one of you a very happy holiday season, with however you are celebrating.  May the season bring you great joy in your life, and peace in your body, mind & soul!




Thursday, September 5, 2013

Guest Post - Yoga for Depression Part 2

Thanks to Kate Durie for providing us with a second piece on Yoga for Depression!  We loved learning about different poses and techniques  to help in the restoration of the body & mind!  

Yoga for Depression (Part 2):
Four foundational practices you can start, today!

Welcome back. If you read part one of this post, “Yoga for …Depression?” you may remember the transformative potential Yoga can have on our lives. I lived it first hand, facing depression and chronic pain, following a Traumatic Brain Injury.

The easy and the hard part? It. Takes. Practice. Time.
An open heart and an open mind.

Even the best drugs, treatments or therapies will only result in lasting change if it is taken or experienced regularly. What we’re talking about here lasting change. The kind of change that rewires our bodies, our minds, our nervous systems. Old, well-worn pathways.

We think we’re comfortable here, because it’s familiar. “This is the way it is,” you say. But we’re not comfortable, are we.

This can change. Let’s start right now.

Here are four foundational practices that you can begin to incorporate into your life, immediately.

#1: Getting still. The power of noticing.

Without question, awareness is the first step of change. Sounds simple, but this can be really hard if our minds and bodies are busy racing from one thing to the next, one thought to the next … or even tuning out, numbing out, and shutting out. Hard, but totally and completely possible.

How do we get there?

Pick one thing at a time & become a 3rd party observer.

Start checking in with yourself throughout the day. Pause. Start noticing if/when your thoughts are racing, or when a familiar negative story is playing in your head. Just notice. No judgment. No reaction. Just notice.

Check in with your breath. With your body. Where are you breathing? In your chest? Your belly? Do you find yourself holding your breath? How long are your inhales, your exhales? Just notice. Do you feel tension in your body? Restlessness? Pain? Stiffness? Where? When? Just notice.

Notice your habits. Eating is a big one. Drink choices. Bedtime routines. Interactions with people. Procrastination. Excuses. How do you spend your time? Anything. Everything.

Why is noticing important?

This is the first step towards change. Awareness. And you can do this.

You are increasing your inner wisdom: body and mind. The more you practice this check-in process throughout the day, the more natural it will begin to feel.

You are learning to cultivate the witness. The ability to experience what is, to simply “BE” without judgment or reaction. To see the choices we make. To be more conscious as we go about our day. Learning to notice, recognize and accept the way things are without immediately trying to change them, and watching as these states of being change, or even pass altogether.

Set a reminder on your phone, or pick an activity like getting into your car, pouring yourself a glass of water, or any other activity that you do regularly throughout the day, as a reminder to check in. How am I breathing? What types of thoughts have been spinning around? How do I feel in my body? How is this different from the last time I checked in?

Then … just watch, listen, feel. Notice.


#2: Big, deep, belly breaths.

Most of us can only survive three minutes without air, so technically speaking we all know how to breathe. Yet most of us are on a default breath setting that keeps us in a perpetual state of unease, stress, and even disease.

Breathing from our chest, the short shallow breaths we are so accustomed to causes havoc on our bodies, signals a fight/flight/freeze response in our nervous system, and starves our blood of oxygen.

We were born knowing how to breathe deep, full, expansive breaths. Watch babies. They are pros. Yet, as we age, many of us lose touch with our natural therapeutic ability to breathe. Something we can absolutely reclaim!

It’s free. It’s immediate.

Bringing mindfulness back to our breath, learning how to breathe deep long nourishing breaths, and how to use various breathing techniques (like 1:1 or 1:2 breathing) can have an immediate and positive effect on our emotional and physical well-being.

The best part? It’s free! Accessible any time, anywhere. And it is completely within our control. We are more powerful than we think.

A great place to start is simply to observe your breath. What is your default setting? If you started with the noticing exercises above, you may already have a good sense of this.

Let’s practice together.
Begin by counting the lengths of your inhales and exhales. Not changing them yet, just counting, just noticing.
One count is roughly one second.
Engage your inner witness - as though you’re observing your breath from the outside in. Not reacting, not changing, not judging. Just observing.
You may notice that your inhales are longer than your exhales, or vice versa. You may notice your breath is short, rapid, shallow, you may notice that you unconsciously hold your breath from time to time throughout the day, or any other variation.

Next, place your left hand on your chest, right hand on your belly.
As you inhale expand your belly, pushing into your right hand.
As you exhale, practice drawing your belly button in towards your spine.
Fill your belly on the inhale, puffing it out as much as feels comfortable. Draw your belly in on the exhale.
Repeat this for 3-5 breath cycles.

Eventually you will move into a 3-part breath, engaging all four quadrants of the lungs, but deep belly breathing is the best place to start, to increase our awareness, and it is an easy “go-to” during stressful situations or moments of tension.

Noticing and counting our breath alone often results in automatic change to our breath pattern. That’s okay. It’s pretty cool actually! Just remember that for most of us, learning to breathe more mindfully and healthfully takes time. Give your body a chance to catch-up.

Noticing without reacting or judging is how you will truly cultivate the calming, relaxing, and nourishing powers of breath.


#3: Finding YOUR way “in”.

Yoga is so much more than most of us believe it to be. Physical postures, breathing techniques, mindfulness, and meditation – even a way of being. Yoga is all these things and more.

Illness, injury, age, mood, experience, availability can all make a 60-90 minute power yoga class an unlikely proposition. If this works for you, great! But let me be really clear. This is not the only way. Far from it.

Practicing in community is powerful stuff. For a lot of us, finding a yoga studio and attending a class is our “way in”. That’s what worked for me, and made sense given my past experience with fitness classes. But…

In can be hard to find the right class. The right teacher. The right location. The right time. I get it. It can be especially challenging if we’re brand new to yoga or contending with various injuries, illnesses, or scheduling difficulties. There are so many variables.

The key is practice. Regular practice. If you want to see real, positive, lasting change, you want invite some form of yoga into your life 2-3 times a week.

And … You have options!

Group classes: Check out one of the many studios in Ottawa. Here are just a few:
Pure Yoga (hot only)
Yogatown (hot only)

Start with classes that include the word gentle, beginner, restorative, yin, meditation, or even therapeutic.

Once you get a feel for what feels good in your body, you can seek out classes to meet you where you are, that day, that week, that month. Ask! Yoga teachers are more than happy to speak with you before or after class if you have any questions. Or, ask the person working at the front desk what they would recommend given your preferences.

Home practice: Carve out a space in your home and keep your yoga mat in plain sight. Start building ‘mat time’ into your daily hygiene. Wake up, wash your face, get on your mat. You get the idea. How can you build a home practice from scratch? Here are a few ideas:
Pick up a book, go online (YouTube), buy a DVD and start building your own home practice. Google is an incredible place to start. Whether you follow a pre-defined routine or mix and match postures that work for you, the Internet is an endless source for videos, pictures, and ideas.
You can begin with a few minutes of deep belly breathing, 1:1 or 1:2 breath, or any other breathing exercise, then add 1-3 sun salutations, a couple standing poses, followed by a few seated/reclined/restorative postures, and savasana.
Start slow. Take breaks. Above all, listen to your body. Our body often knows better than our head.
The most important part of your practice is your breath. Cultivating focus on breath is a powerful way to calm your mind, body, and nervous system.
If you lose your breath while you are practicing, or catch yourself holding your breath, pause, ease up, and come back to that slow and steady, deep belly breathing. Your breath is your guide.

Private classes / Yoga Therapy: If a public class or DIY approach doesn’t sit well with you, consider a private session or Yoga Therapy.
This can be a more costly option in the short term, but will provide you with 1x1 personalized support to get you started in the comfort of your own home.
A private session with a Registered Yoga Teacher or Yoga Therapist will take into account your personal needs, restrictions, and preferences. The teacher/therapist can come to your home, and will meet you where you’re at in that moment.
This is a great way to learn and design a home practice that you can then continue on your own going forward.
Many yoga teachers offer private sessions. If you contact one of the local yoga studios, they can help you find a yoga teacher or yoga therapist who is open to private sessions.

When it comes to depression, anxiety, or any other health concern for that matter, our best “way in” is to practice a type of yoga that will meet you where you are (e.g. depressed lethargic body, anxious restless mind), then move the energy in a healing direction. Find the style, the pace, the duration that works for you.

When we’re dealing with depression or are brand new to yoga, going out into the world can feel overwhelming, intimidating, too much. I want you to know you have options! Get curious. Give yourself permission to try. I encourage you to explore one of the options listed here.

#4: Get restorative. On you.

Restorative poses (combined with breathing techniques like 1:1 or 1:2 breathing) and long holds are powerful way to release tension, increase body awareness, calm your body and mind or energize your body and mind, depending on what you need.

Here are 5 wonderful restorative poses to help with feelings of lethargy, slowness, heaviness, as well as racing thoughts and worry. Trademarks of depression and anxiety. The key here is backbends, heart openers, and balanced or extended breathing.

Before your begin to practice, always take a few moments to check with your body, your mind, your thoughts. Make note of how you feel in each of these areas, before and after. Even write it down.

Props: In addition to your mat, have a couple thick blankets and cushions (or bolster) close by. Yoga props are great if you have them, but regular house-hold items work great too!

Relaxation Pose: Sit down on your mat, knees bent and feet flat on the floor. Place a twice-folded blanket under your back, with the rounded edge beginning at your waist and extending beyond your head. Place two blocks or cushions/bolster under your knees, and lie down on your back. Explore different placements of the props under your knees, finding the most comfortable position for your lower back. Draw your arms out to a 45 degree angle, hands facing slightly upward.

Gentle Backbend Pose: To begin, you will keep the set-up for Relaxation Pose, and add an additional blanket or bolster under your back. Using the second blanket, fold it two or three times (first lengthwise, then widthwise 1-3 times depending on your comfort and blanket shape). Place the blanket on your mat, where your upper spine will be. Lie back over the blankets, so that the fold is under your upper spine. Adjust to find comfort. Stretch your arms out just below the level of your heart. If using a bolster, place it lengthwise under your back, starting from your lower spine and making sure it extends to your head (so your whole head is supported). Return the blocks/cushions/bolster under your knees, as in Relaxation Pose.

Inversion Pose: Fold one or two blankets (first lengthwise, then widthwise) so it forms a wide and long rectangle. Experiment with one or two blankets and go with what feels most comfortable. Place the blanket(s) on the front half of your mat with the rounded edge facing the back of your mat, leaving the back half for your shoulders and head. Lie down on the blanket(s), so that your upper shoulder blades and head are grounded on the mat, while the rest of your body (heart to feet) are elevated on the blankets. Adjust until you find a comfortable position. Draw your arms out to the side, about 45 degrees from your body, with palms facing slightly upward. Start with your knees bent, feet flat on the blanket, and let your knees fall together, letting go of all muscle tension. If it does not strain your lower back, you and extend your legs out straight, feet relaxed and open, or place blocks/cushions/bolster under your knees.

Butterfly Pose: Using the same blanket set-up as Relaxation Pose but twice the height, sit down on your mat with your legs out in front of you. Leave a couple inches of space between your bum and the edge of the blanket. Bend your knees and bring the soles of your feet together, lowering your knees out to the sides of your mat. Place blocks or cushions beneath your thighs, so that no effort is required to keep your knees up. Draw your arms out to the side, about 45 degrees from your body, with palms facing slightly upward.

Legs-up-the-Wall Pose: Bring your mat up to a wall, with the short side flush against the wall. Take a stack of two blankets folded four times and place them within reach of your mat. Sit with one hip against the wall, then slowly swing your legs up the wall, lying down in the centre of your mat. Work your bum as close to the wall as your hamstrings allow. Bend your knees, walk your feet a few inches down the wall, and lift up your hips, then place the blankets under your hips, about an inch or two from the wall and straighten your legs. Draw your arms out to the side, about 45 degrees from your body, with palms facing slightly upward.

After you have found a comfortable resting place in each pose, begin to find your breath. Slowly deepening the inhale and lengthening the exhale. Observe your thoughts, feelings, and sensations without becoming involved in them, without reacting or judging. Acknowledge them as you breathe in, and release them as you breathe out. Become the impartial, 3rd party witness. Breath through any thoughts, feelings or sensations, then let them go. Slowly balance your breath so that your inhale is equal to your exhale. If your mind is active, let your exhale be longer than your inhale, moving into 1:2 breathing. Counting your breath is a great way to cultivate focus and draw your senses inward. Hold each posture for 2-10 minutes (or longer if that feels right).

When it comes to restorative postures, the important thing to remember is that the most subtle practices can create the deepest relaxation and have the greatest positive impact.

I also encourage you to simple Google any of these poses for pictures, as well as additional guidance and support.

What’s next?

Take what serves you. Leave the rest. This is your journey. You have total permission to make this yoga practice your own.

Practice. Print out this list. Keep it somewhere close.

Remember, even the best drug in the universe will only work if you take it as directed, which means regularly and consistently, usually daily. Yoga is great medicine. Plain and simple, yoga heals. But like any deep lasting change it can be slow medicine. The most important part of the Yoga Rx is PRACTICE.

Practice is not an all or nothing equation.

Our mind automatically jumps back to thinking a 60-minute yoga class is the only way. It is not. Every little bit counts. And the more often these ‘little bits’ happen, the more change you will see. Just get on your mat, on your cushion, or even your bed or chair. Five minutes can make the difference. One of my favourite sayings is “if you can show up and breathe, you’re doing yoga.” This may your way in.

Every step you take towards incorporating these practices into your life paves a new pathway in your brain, begins to rewire your nervous system, and is the catalyst for change. Transformation. Give yourself permission to try. I promise, you can do this.

"It's not too late at all. You just don't yet know what you are capable of."
- Mahatma Gandhi

Need help getting started? Let me know. As I complete my Yoga Therapy Certification, I will be looking for 5 clients to guide through the entire assessment and intake process, leaving you with a personalized Yoga Therapy recommendation and program. I would love to be of service to you on your healing journey.

xo Kate





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Kate Durie
Registered Yoga Teacher, Blissologist, Yoga Therapist (in progress)
Kate is a Registered Yoga Teacher, and has trained under renowned yogi and Blissologist, Eoin Finn. Kate is currently in training to become a Yoga Therapist, specializing in yoga for chronic pain, depression, anxiety, and other various conditions. As a Traumatic Brain Injury survivor, Kate understands first hand how Yoga is more than a series of asanas. Yoga heals. With every breath, every movement, every intention, yoga is transformative.

Connect with Kate on...
Twitter & Instagram: @kateudurie
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www.katedurie.com (coming soon)




Monday, August 12, 2013

Back To School - Middles

You remember what being in middle school was like.  You remember recess being fun, doing plays & playing the recorder in music class, you remember "nature walks" and field trips, you remember playing soccer or basketball and travelling for games & tournaments.

Middle school is an amazing time in your child's life, as they are set in their school routine, know that they have homework to do, know which subjects they like, and which they need to work harder at.  Middle school is also where your child starts to really develop a personality, a group of friends, along with their own morals and values.  

Although all of these great things are happening during middle school, these years can be tough on your child.  With all of the above positives, there are other things to watch for:

Developing own personalities - is your child's personality something to be concerned about?  Is he/she lashing out?  Are there more tears than smiles?

Groups of friends - is your child hanging out with others that are easy to get along with?  Are they nice?  Are they a good or bad influence? 

Homework - is your child doing his/her homework?  Are they making up excuses for not handing in their homework?  Are they lying about having homework?

Hormones - oh the joy of the puberty age!  Is your child struggling with hormonal changes?  
Is your child nervous about having a locker for the first time?  How to remember that darn combination code?  

Is it nerve-wracking for them to be moving from classroom to classroom for subjects, instead of staying with their one teacher who just teaches everything all day?

Has your child mentioned a bully in his/her class or an older grade?  Is there a fear about going to school?  Has your child been threatened by someone at school?

The very best thing a parent can do is listen & watch.  Listen to your child's concerns "What if I can't get my locker open and I miss my bus?"  and watch for behavioral changes "I hate going to gym class now!!" (from a child who loved gym before), does your child suddenly not speak to a friend that they've been friends with for a long time?  Reading between the lines of your child's statements may be a great indication as to what's going on.  Also, there is no shame in getting in touch with your child's teachers if there is something you need to discuss ie: homework, behavior in class, etc.

Another thing that parents can do for their kids, is to make sure they stay healthy during the school year.  Getting eyes tested, vitamins taken, and regular dental check ups are a key to a successful school year - but what about their mental health as well?  Ensuring that you take time each week to talk about school, friends, groups of kids, etc.  Watching for signs of depression, stress, anxiety, and even thoughts of suicide can be overwhelming as a parent, but you know your child better than anyone.  Having healthy meals (breakfast, lunch & dinner) are very supportive in mental health as well.

As embarrassing as it may be as a parent to talk to your child about sex, this is the time in their lives where they will be learning about it at school, and from their peers, and they are dealing with puberty.  Your child will be embarrassed to be talking about it with you as well (as we all were growing up) but, hey, if we couldn't embarrass our own child, who can we embarrass?  :)  In all seriousness, the age of those participating in sexual activity is dropping, and better safe than sorry with having the discussion about safe sex early on. Deep breaths, it's going to be okay.

Encourage your child to live their school life to the fullest - play spots, swing on swings, take on yearbook or art classes, run track, join clubs.  School isn't just about learning from books, it's about learning who you are!  

Anyone needing support during the school year - students, parents, teachers, faculty, bus drivers - can call and speak to one our volunteer crisis line specialists, in confidence, 24 hours a day.  Simply call 613-238-3311.  


Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Self-Harm

Maybe you've been out somewhere and have seen someone in passing, or even a friend, or a co-worker with a bandage on their arm/wrist, or have seen visible scars branding someone's body that seem like they were deliberately placed.  Maybe the thought has crossed your mind "Why would anyone want to cut themselves?"  

Self-harm doesn't just affect one's body, but also their mind, and spirit.  It also just isn't about someone cutting themselves to feel pain or trying to escape life.

In fact, those who participate in self-harm, are often looking to feel better.  Those who are searching this feeling get a "high" from having the power & control over their mind and body, and it can feel euphoric, releasing certain endorphins.  Those who self-harm aren't always looking to end their lives, but in certain situations, this can be their reason for self-harm.  There are also tragic "overdoses" of self-harm where one can accidentally end their lives.

Self-harm doesn't just fall into cutting.  There are many methods people use, and can often move from one to another when that high isn't attainable anymore.

Self-Harm
  • Cutting (often with razor blades, scissors or glass)
  • Burning
  • Hitting
  • Scratching or picking at skin
  • Hair pulling
  • Inserting objects into body
Behaviours also considered as self-harm:
  • Smoking
  • Drinking alcohol
  • Drug addiction
  • Food (binge eating or starvation)
  • Sex (many partners, unprotected)
Why does someone indulge in self-harm?  There is something in that person's life that is leading them to feel like they need to do this to themselves.  A traumatic experience (past or present), lack of coping skills, difficult relationships, financial woes, death of a family member or friend, battling a mental health disorder, battling a physical disability, issues academically, dealing with sexuality, abusive relationships (emotionally and physically), being bullied, and having issues at work.  There may also be psychological reasons that someone self-harms, such as hearing voices, repeated thoughts of doing it, forcing you to act upon to make the thoughts go away, and it could be a symptom of a borderline personality disorder.  This list is certainly not exhaustive as anything can trigger someone to want to self-harm.  T

How does someone get over the urge to do this to themselves?  Well there are many ways, but it takes time, effort and the person's own desire to stop.

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - helps to identify unhealthy, negative beliefs and behaviors by slowly introducing them, and learning to cope with healthy & positive skills
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy - a brand of CBT (above) that teaches behavioral skills to help tolerate distress, manage or regulate emotions and improve relationships
  • Psychodynamic Psychotherapy - focuses on identifying past experiences, hidden memories or interpersonal issues at the root of emotional difficulties through self-examination guided by a therapist (source Mayo Clinic)
  • Medications - while there are no meds to treat self-harming behavior, a doctor may prescribe antidepressants or other medications to help treat a mental health disorder surrounding the self-harm behavior
If you or someone you know are self-harming, your first step to recovery is to confide in someone you trust.  If you can't confide in someone who is close to you just yet, you can call to talk to one of our amazing volunteers, at any time of day or night. 

613-238-3311





Thursday, February 7, 2013

Letter Response

Back in January, we came across a "Letter to Editor" in a local Ottawa newspaper. 

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"Talk mental health

Why in 2013 is it still acceptable to openly discuss cancer, stroke, and heart failure, and not mental health?

The mental health crisis line is 613-722-6914. Yet one has to wonder what happens when that number is dialed. Will you immediately speak to a professional? Will you be put on hold or told someone will call you back shortly? Will you be forwarded to a message machine? Is the call confidential? If you’re a parent, will five cop cars and someone from Children’s Aid arrive at the door while you’re on the line? How many then, would make that call with so many unanswered questions?

We hear very little about mental health, no one canvassing at the door, no big gift lotteries offering houses and cars, and I don’t think many are running or biking for it.

So we hear and say very little about mental health, leaving some, perhaps many, to struggle in silence, fearful of being judged."
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We wanted to respond to the writer, as she asked many questions that needed an answer.  While our response wasn't published, it's important for those who have similar questions to see the answers.

This is our response!

RESPONSE

Why don’t we speak more openly about mental health? It affects each and every one of us in one way or another, sometimes without realizing it.

When someone makes the decision to call the Distress Centre of Ottawa & Region or the Mental Health Crisis Line, they’ve taken the initiative to talk about the issues they are facing. When the number is dialed, you are reaching one of our volunteer Crisis Line Specialists. Each of these individuals has undergone 59 hours of extensive training, including the Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST) workshop so that we are prepared to provide support to anyone calling in, no matter what the problem, at any time of day or night.

While the vast majority of calls are answered immediately, it’s possible that if we’re experiencing a high volume of calls, that you may be put into queue, to wait for one of our Crisis Line Specialists to finish supporting another caller. If you are placed in our queue, you’ll hear the message letting you know that we’ll answer your call as quickly as we can. You can be assured that every single call that comes into the Distress Centre & the MHCL is completely confidential and information is not shared outside of the centre, however; if there is an immediate danger to yourself, another person or a child, this will fall under our obligation to involve emergency services. We are here to provide unbiased, non-judgmental support to anyone in need of help, including those dealing with relationship issues, finances, mental & physical illnesses, employment concerns, local resources, sexuality & interpersonal issues and suicide ideations, and much more. Remember - anything that is affecting your day to day coping skills, is a reason to call.

As much as the society is starting to open up and talk about mental health, there is still room for improvement, and we are working hard to get people talking - talking to us, talking to family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers. In fact, the Distress Centre of Ottawa & Region is participating in the Ottawa Race Weekend, and invites others to raise funds and awareness for our Crisis Lines. There is also an annual fundraising event called “A Chocolate Affair” on May 2nd, to do the same thing.

We invite everyone to learn more about the Mental Health Crisis Line at www.crisisline.ca and the Distress Centre at www.dcottawa.on.ca.    If you need someone to talk to, you can call 613-238-3311 (Distress Centre) 613-722-6914 in Ottawa, 1-866-996-0991 (MHCL) outside of Ottawa. We’re here for you, no matter what.



 


Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Stay (Relatively) Stree Free This Holiday Season

The malls, the crowds, the commercials, the kids whining, the out of town relatives, the parties, the food, the presents...........

Aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!
(Go ahead and scream, it's okay!)

We're 40 days away from Christmas, and it seems like the holiday season comes around earlier and earlier every year.  Trees are up in stores the day after Halloween, holiday tunes are playing on the radio stations, and Santa arrives in the malls across the city this weekend.

It's enough to make many of us extremely stressed out, like there aren't enough hours in the day, or enough dollars in your bank account, and like you just haven't got it right.  Maybe you or your partner aren't working and there is the added anxiety of how you are going to make Christmas work.  Maybe there is someone who is sick in your family, and aren't sure if they will make to the holidays.  Perhaps someone in your circle of friends is dealing with substance abuse, and you aren't sure whether to have them to your party, or how to deal with them when they're there.

While we are here for you 24/7, to talk about any stresses relating to the holidays coming up, we've complied a few tips to help you be less stressed this year.  By no means, will these suggestions work for everyone, but a little support can sometimes go a long way!

1) Make a budget & stick to it!  Stick with a set spending amount that won't make you stress this holiday season.  Remember, it is the thought behind the gift.  Are there kids in your life that you're buying for?  Look for gifts that keep them interested & occupied.  Little girls love anything they can make to show off - one example is a "Make Your Own Headband" kit.  10 headbands already made, and the little girl can decorate it with flowers, glitter, fabric and other things that come in the kit.  Add some accessories and extra stuff from Dollarama and you have a great gift for less that $30. 

2) Simplicity is best!  You do that big holiday party at your house every year, and go all out?  Keep things simple and classic.  Check out some easy DYI ideas on Pinterest using items you already have at home.  Or, again, hit up Dollarama, who has been bringing in some name brand items for $3.00 each, and their decorations are fabulous!

3)  Recruit Helpers!  Don't feel as if you're in this alone.  Get your family, friends, and kids to help you out.  Have tons of baking to do?   Recruit friends into a Cookie Exchange and stick with something simple.  Having the big dinner at your place?  Do it potluck style.  Don't refuse someone if they want to help with preparations or clean up!

4) Exercise!  It doesn't have to be a class at the gym every day, but at least 30 minutes every day, do some sort of exercise.  Have kids?  Put on some holiday tunes and have a dance party in your living room.  Like to see the lights at night?  Go for a brisk walk with someone!  Enjoy yoga?  Use free Youtube videos to do some deep breathing and stretching.  Your body and mind will be happier!

5) Get in some YOU time!  We're in the car, travelling back and forth from different households during the season, but remember that you need time for YOU.  Choose 1-2 days where you can just put your feet, and relax. 

6) Get your shopping done early!  Ask people you're buying for, for 3-5 items they're wanting by November 25th.  This gives you lots of time to get out and get your shopping done.  Does the thought of shopping with hundreds of people in a crowded mall turn your stomach?  Shop online!  Many outlets provide free shipping, along with a guarenteed arrival date before Christmas Eve.  Make a deadline date to get your shopping done.  Ask a family member or friends to watch your kids for an afternoon while you go out and play "Santa"

7) Volunteer!  Believe it or not, those who volunteer during the holiday season feel at peace with everything else in their lives.  While we're starting to accept applications for our January training classes, you can choose to volunteer with other holiday organizations liked Operation Rednose or the Salvation Army Kettlebell.  Then, apply online at www.dcottawa.on.ca to become a volunteer with us in 2013 :)

Hopefully some of these tips will help you relax a bit over the holiday season.  Remember that being with those you love & cherish is what Christmas is about!

613-238-3311 is how you can reach us 24/7 to talk about your holiday experiences, and if you are having anxiety or stressful feelings.



Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Anxiety

Imagine your every day being a struggle in terms of fear, shortness of breath, panic, phobia of being around people.  Even going to get a coffee can cause an attack.

Anxiety Disorders are the most common mental disorders in the general population, affecting 10-15%.  Anxiety can range from mild uneasiness to a panic attack - that feeling where the world is crashing down around you, completely falling apart, yet nothing is happening.  Anxiety can last for a few moments, days, months or a lifetime.

Most likely, you have experienced a form of anxiety in your life.  Buying a house, studying for an exam, a loved one being sick, driving in bad weather.  These are all mild cases of anxiety examples, but at any given moment, these examples can become full blown panic attacks, where you just lose complete control of yourself.

People with anxiety often describe symptomes such as: feeling "on edge", difficulty concentrating, irritability, physical symtoms such as trembling or sweating, sleep disturbance, uncontrollable worry that is disproportionate to source and interferes with day to day living.

Anxiety often produces frightening physical sensations as well - shortness of breath is one that can be very scary as people try to breathe, and can't seem to exhale.  Tactics our volunteers take on the phone with callers, are breathing exercises.  "Let's take a deep breathe together, and count to 5".  Often this is helpful for the caller to gain control of how they are feeling so that they are able to talk about what is causing the anxiety.

Another way to cope with anxiety or attacks is focusing on strategies that have worked in the past.  Does going for a walk help you?  Does cooking or baking help you?  Does cleaning help?

Anxiety Disorders are diagnosed by doctors, and can include:
  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder
  • Panic Disorder
  • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
  • Phobias
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Operational Stress Disorder (This is a fairly new disorder, focusing on Military, Police, etc)
A great place to start if you're thinking you are dealing with an Anxiety Disorder, is to visit your family doctor, or a clinic nearby.  We have such amazing resources in the city for our use.

As always, if you are experiencing something you need to talk about, call and speak to one of our amazing Distress Line volunteers.  613-238-3311.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

#CHEOConnects - What We Learned

On Monday night this week, we attended the Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO)'s Mental Health Information Night for parents.

To say there were some interested folks out there would be an understatement.  Nearly 200 parents showed up to listen to a panel of experts talk about Mental Health issues that their children may be facing.

The information night was scheduled months ago, and by sheer coincidence, came less than a week after British Columbia teenage, Amanda Todd, took her own life.  Alex Munter, President of CHEO, acted as the moderator for the evening, asking experts Ian Manion, Phil Ritchie, Neil Gottheil (all Child Psychologists) and Clare Gray (Pediatric Psychiatrist) questions that were submitted by parents in the audience.  It proved to be very well received, as we noticed as the talks when on, more and more parents were handing in their questions.

It was amazing to see so many parents in one room, either there because they are worried about their own children, just wanting to educate themselves, or they have concerns for their children's social circle.  Either way, everyone was there for the same reason - to get answers.  There were lots of questions about anxiety, bullying and how to talk to your child/teenager about suicide - a topical question coinciding with the death of Amanda Todd, and previously, Jamie Hubley and Daron Richardson.

Before and after the session, we were on hand to talk to parents about our services for them.  Our focus was to tell parents that while we aren't able to give them advice, we are here to be a support system for them.  Sometimes, in situations with your children, you can find yourself embarrassed to talk to a friend, another family member or a co-worker, as you may feel like you're being judged for not being a good parent, or not paying close enough attention to your children.  That's not the case when you call the Distress Centre.  We're unbiased, non-judgmental, and just here to listen and provide support for you and your family.

All of the experts took their time in answering questions, and we were tweeting some of their answers & recommendations.  Knowledge is power and the more we are able to share with one another, the more we'll educate the world on Mental Health.  These are some of the tweets that we shared from the event:

  • Don't be afraid to talk to your kids about suicide, keep the door open, emotions good, bad and in between

  • Physically healthier helps teens be mentally healthier

  • Anxiety lives through avoidance. Skills can be implemented to help get through anxiety isssues.

  • Kids that bully are defined as looking to take control and a level of power. Redirect kids to leadership rather than bully


  • Parent should know that our phone line is an excellent way to talk to someone non-judgmental about their kids 613-238-3311

  • Bullying has been taken to another level than it was years ago with social media/cyber space.

  • Boys bully very directly, and girls more indirectly

  • Beware of your children's technology and social media so that if they start to use in a dangerous way you can intervene

  • From psychiatrist - no cells during family time, learn about each other, about their lives beyond what you see.

  • Have your children unplug their electronics 30 minutes before bed - promotes healthy sleep and helps with depression symptoms.

  • Medications are not the only treatment for depression - therapy is also needed

We were so fortunate to be able to attend this event, so thank you to CHEO for allowing us to be there, and put our information in the hands of all of the parents in attendance.

If you're a parent, reading this for the first time, and are wishing you knew about the event, contact CHEO, and put a request in for another session. If you feel as if you could benefit from speaking to one of our amazing volunteers, give us a call at 613-238-3311.

 
 Our information table at Sir Robert Borden High School, before #CHEOConnects


Alex Munter, President of CHEO (left) asks panel of experts, questions from the audience